4 Ways Beat Match Negativity Once and For All

We all have done it: We beat ourselves up for missing a down the line shot or doffing an easy volley into the net. When we make mistakes on the court, we as humans tend to berate ourselves in our minds…and sometimes out loud for all to hear.

If you are a Glam Slammer, you know we focus big time on changing your negative self talk. We understand it can be difficult so here are some great tips to change the way you treat yourself on the court, specifically during a match.

First off, remind yourself that it does absolutely NO GOOD for you to get down on yourself. It does NOT make you play better or focus more intently. Quite the opposite actually – it’s an inward distraction in your mind.

  1. Change the way you talk about your mistakes in life. If you are hard on yourself on the court, it is likely that you expect perfection in everything you do. Guess what? No one is perfect, so friends, get over it. When you trip coming out of a store or forget your keys for the third time, be kind and remind yourself that life is full of small mistakes that don’t amount up to a whole hill of beans. The same goes on the court as well. Your “dumb” mistakes do not define who you are as a player and athlete. LET THEM GO!
  2. Find humor. Your tennis game is a work in progress so find the humor in that process Having a good chuckle at a net doff relaxes your muscles – just follow it up with a shadow swing to remind your body how you will respond to the next one. Which leads us to the next one…
  3. Don’t get mad, get practicing. In the heat of the match, use a shadow swing after a miss, sprinkled with some positive reinforcement in your mind that you will get the next one. Watch Venus and Caroline Wozniacki – they never show anger with a mistake. They move on to the next one while reminding themselves there’s always another point to win.
  4. Have a fall back plan. If you’re in the middle of a match and you’re suddenly flooded with negative thinking, stay calm, remind yourself that these thoughts are absolutely normal and immediately RE-FOCUS on what you are physically and strategically doing in the moment and not on what you are thinking. Discussing tactics and strategy for the next point with your partner can help you move forward and stop the dwelling. Peak performance always happens when your focus is outward in the action rather than inward on your thinking!